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insensitivity

Today, I came across an article on Facebook, and somehow I was extremely enraged at what I read.

In summary: This young lady posted an insensitive comment of  ‘Singaporeans too weak? LOL’ at an article shared by her friend over the death of an NS men during his training.

Read the full story here: http://temasektimes.wordpress.com/2012/04/18/singapore-girl-laughs-at-nsf-who-died-during-training-singaporeans-too-weak-lol/

Following this post, I also read her apology after being flamed by many on cyberspace for her insensitivity. She apologised for her comment, and explained that she did not read the article carefully, and did not mean her comments literally.

Read te full story here: http://temasektimes.wordpress.com/2012/04/18/zheng-huiting-apologizes-for-making-insensitive-remarks-on-death-of-nsf-lee-ruifeng-during-training-in-lim-chu-kang/

Honestly? I think her apology was really a load of crap. I know she has been flamed by many people online already, but I really have some things to say about her apology.

First of all, when she saw the article, I was sure she had read the heading of the article which read: ‘NSF dies after taking part in training exercise’  before making her comment. The headline had spelled out clearly that it was no laughing matter. Even if that was all that she had read, she had no point making that senseless comment.

The irony here was that her boyfriend was a NS man as well. Then shouldn’t she realise how fortunate she is? To all the people that one leaves behind upon leaving this world, the pain is difficult to erase, no matter the amount of time. With such comment being made, doesn’t she realise that she is adding salt to the wound?

Then next, she said that she did not mean her words literally. In my point of view, I really cannot see what other ways she could have meant with the four words posted in that comment. Maybe it is my poor interpretation, but I was pretty sure she meant what she typed.

I think I was somehow affected by this incident mainly due to the fact that I had many friends who knew the man who passed away personally. Also, I have many friends who are currently serving the NS, and there is no way I would want to see such things happening to anyone that I know.

Everyone would have their moments of insensitivity, but this? She really doesn’t have a valid excuse for what she had said, and the people that she have hurt.

I sincerely hope she have learnt her lesson and know when to hold her tongue (or her fingers in this case) when necessary.

P.S: Her grammar in the apology post sucks. (Sorry I’m a grammar nazi)

Love, Vee.

mother and daughters bonding

no i am not talking about my mom. im talking about hanging out with my babygirls (:

so after a super long time of not meeting up, we finally met up (it’s my fault for being a busybee in march!) and we decided to go partyworld cos of this really great deal Hoho found on Groupon and it comes with free tidbits and drinks and all! Then we went to Strictly Pancakes for some awesome pancake lovin’ which left us with a full and happy belly ^^ (No pictures today because my camera’s photos got corrupted again 😦 looks like it’s time for a new camera, and no reviews for awhile ><)

there are so many things i thank you girls for. for being there for me, for standing up for me, for encouraging me, and most important, for not leaving me when i needed you girls most. really am looking forward to our outings in the future! you girls are one of the most awesome things that ever happened to me in HTM (: ❤

Love, Vee

In Need Of Sleep!

Haven’t been blogging for a month because I had been really busy throughout the past month with work, and followed by CCA training for a  week straight already.

Work for the Global Leadership Conference was really a fulfilling and fun experience because we had really nice clients who ensured that our benefits and welfare were taken care of, and they were friendly people as well! Met some new friends throughout the seven days at work, which I’m sure we’d meet again in future events if there’s an opportunity! (: It was also nice working with the Salvo people, which made the entire working experience even more amazing (:

For now, I have ended my first week of CCA training, which will be more intense in the next two weeks for our concert on 23rd March! I am currently covered in bruises from all the bumping into the drums, and my limbs are aching so badly! But I really am looking forward to our concert, as it will be the performance that marks the end of my three year journey in Salvo.

I am going to publicise for my concert again! It will be on 23rd March, 7.30pm at TP’s Auditorium 1! (: Tickets going at only $8! If you’re reading this, please try to come for the concert, I promise it would be something different from any concerts you have ever been to! (:

Random Meet Ups!

So, throughout the past few days, I have been meeting up with a lot of people as I have been quite free after my submission, and I am happy to have caught up with a couple of people, such as S, MJ and also people from my past workplace!

I think the ultimate point of meeting up is really to catch up on how each other’s lives are going on, and when we reminisce about the past, you do realise that both parties do still treasure the times that we have had, and I think that is absolutely heartwarming.

I guess this month had been a month of revelation, and ultimately I need to know who are the ones I need to hold dear to, and for those people that I met up with, I am glad that they chose to have stayed in my life, and that’s what matters.

Change is the only Constant.

Disclaimer: This is just my thoughts about life now, I am not emo-ing, just doing a lot of thinking (:

I think it’s a period of time where everyone is starting to face the changes in their lives at this stage. As teenagers, or soon-to-be-adults, there are so many things that are about to change. Our education, our social life, our relationships, our commitments, there are so many things that are about to unfold before us, and there are many choices to make, and these choices may very well affect the rest of our lives at this point in our lives.

Take for example, university choices. It’s one of the biggest things that terrifies me now, because I cannot see where I will be in a few months’ time. In the past, I was able to project myself in a future environment because I can confidently decide where I will end up, and that is where my destination will be. However, I lost that confidence now, and I am not sure if I can move on in my ideal life that I have set for myself.

Another example, would be my friends I have now. We are all meeting other people in our own fields and environment that we are living in, and sometimes, when changes do arise, it is an all new definition of accepting and adapting, before getting used to it, before the cycle repeats itself, and it’s another round of adapting to the change again.

At the end of the day, I definitely hope that change is for the better, for myself, and for everyone around me. I may not be able to take charge of changes, but I can definitely take charge of my emotions at least. It is difficult, but it’s all in the learning process of growing up. I am still trying, and I guess I just need more time.

To everyone coping with change, I hope you are adapting well, and may whatever that comes along be for the better.

Love, Vee (: